ADOPTION ETIQUETTE PART II

Please do not read me wrong, as this is not a lecture of sorts.... Think of it more as "if you say this to me one more time I might stick a spoon in your eyeball" :) This is really merely just an FYI if you're around a mother of biological and adoptive children.

Please don't say things like....
"When is YOUR baby due?"
"What do you think YOUR baby will look like?"
"She's adopting a baby and now she's pregnant with her OWN baby."
"Oh so you'll have two adopted kids and one of your OWN!?"
"What does her/his MOM look like?" (open your eyes, I'm standing right here)

All of my children are my OWN. I'm their MOM. Regardless of the route they required to come to this family, nothing could possibly prove them to be any less than my cherished children, part of my eternal family. And when we go to the glorious temple here on earth, my children's blood lines become my own blood lines. This is why when I'm asked about the background of my family I am careful in my word choice.

"Layla was adopted." or "Layla came to us through adoption."
Never do I say, "Layla IS adopted"
Being adopted has nothing to do with who she IS, it's merely the way she arrived.

So don't be bugged my inklings to educate on the appropriate wording to use around an adoptive mother. It's just a kind reminder that sometimes a simple comment can leave an unintentional sting. And if I were to  sit down and allow the sting... how would I be fulfilling my role as a mother? The role to better this world for my lovely children.

P.S.
Rider's doctor said he wouldn't be surprised if the birth mom went into labor within the next week. So cross your fingers everybody! This baby boy I've been dreaming of could be here in a matter of days!